Stella's Soapbox Talk!

Well I been a-wall for a while, time to get back on the BLOGSPOT soapbox.

I know these next comments may not be popular but wisdom rarely is to the foolish.

So here goes...

To my sisters and yes, even some brothers---the goal of life is to be around long enough to discover why you were brought here in the first place. Then once you find out your why, do something that impacts a generation you may never live to see. In the long run, it is not JUST about you but IT (DESTINY) NEEDS YOU. So... here are a few tips on staying here long enough...

Never go off by yourself without telling somebody where you are! More young women are dismembered and scattered around the country than a few who refused to follow this advice. EVERYBODY KNOW---WHERE EVERYBODY GOES. Tell momma, sister, brother, uncle auntie, cousin---SOMEBODY WHERE YOU ARE GOING! At all times!

Date in your own class and league. Yes that is right stay in a group of people who share your values, faith and belief systems. Or you will end up compromising and in denial about who you are. Life is too short to live it being double minded.

Avoid men old enough to be your father. As a general rule, males start producing sperm somewhere between age 9 and 13. If a man is more than nine years older that you... He is too old unless you are in your 30's by then you ought to know a few things. But if you 19 and he 35, that is red flag if I ever saw one.

Why you ask? Years equal experience. A much older man has significantly more experience that a young woman (or at least he should have). The young can easily be manipulated and controlled. You should date people in a similar age group and get guidance from older people. The bible talks about how the older men and women should teach (not date) the younger ones. An old man is often insecure with women in his own age group because he knows that they cannot be easily manipulated. That is why he may prey on the young.

This is a hard one for some of you but I'm going to tell you anyway, stay out of MENS HOUSES and ROOMS! Yes that is right! You don't have any business in a man's bedroom unless you are going to be his object of sexual exploration. Have some self esteem and guard yourself. My daddy said "you worth a million dollars till he screws you, after that you cheap as dirt."

I know this kind of talk is not popular or common but it is still true. God gives us rules not to control us but to protect us. Sometimes God needs some help from us to keep crap in your life to a bare minimum. How you going to cry rape when you went in his room knowing what he wanted to do? And on a side note don’t have men in your room either! Yes things still happen but don’t invite trouble.

People, People, People! Yes! Sex is good. In fact, sex is just down right FANTASTIC but you can't have sex 24/7! Sooner or later somebody got to pay for the bed you sexin’ in! And if HE ANIT GOT NO JOB---THAT IS GONNA BE A LITTLE HARD TO DO! Stop dating men who are CONSISTENTLY unemployed. You are destroying his capacity to fulfill why he was created!!! Because...

When God put Adam in the Garden, 1st he Gave him a HOUSE! Then he gave him responsibility (name these animals). It was late in the game that ADAM got a woman! He had PURPOSE and could PROVIDE! That rascal had been workin' his little naked bottom off before God dropped that woman on him. If he has no PURPOSE and CANT PROVIDE---throw him back in the water! NOW!

All that noise about this being the 21st century and the modern age ... yada yada yada is a pile of poo poo! At the end of the day--Every real man wants a real woman who is not damaged, used up, and shared by other men. And real women want their own MAN. Not one they have to share or have on borrowed time! And God did say things like TWO become ONE---and ONE wife of ONE husband ...

Messing with other women's MEN and other MENS women will get you KILLED! Be righteous! Go get your own man. Or go get your own WOMAN.

Well I'm getting tired on this little soapbox but I'm almost done.

On a final note . . .

Learn how to nip things in the bud. Every deviant behavior has a starting point where you come to a fork in the road and then begin the downward spiral. That first little punch, that comment about staying away from your momma, that little twinge in your head that hints at something not right here? That is your conscience WARNING YOU to run because down the road this MAN will eventually beat the LIFE out of You...

LISTEN TO THAT VOICE! NIP IT IN THE BUD! Cut things off before they can grow to the point that you can't defeat them, get rid of or get away from them.

Finally, the best way to find out if you need to keep people in your life is to follow a few simple rules ask yourself the following...

‎1. Does he Love or have respect for God? If he doesn't respect God, he will never respect you.

‎2. Is he (or she) teachable? If they know everything and won’t listen to anybody else, it is like a person drinking their own pee! No new nutrition, information, or enlightenment there! I know this is RAW but I gotta tell the truth!

3. Who is he following? If he is not following anybody that means he does not have a father figure or counselor pouring into his (or her) life. As I heard in a recent sermon, "If you are following somebody, who is not following anybody---you are and ARE FOLLOWING a fool." Everybody needs a MENTOR, LEADER, FATHER, etc to check you when you go astray and celebrate you when you win.

Well that’s enough for tonight.

Be wise.

Be well.

Be filled with the Spirit.

Be Holy as the Father is Holy!

Love ya'll!
Stella